Psychodynamic counselling can be an important way to become the person you should have been; by understanding the past you can live a stronger, happier life now and into the future.
We are looking at the foundations.....as essential as the foundations of a house, and as invisible when all is well-H Krystal.
I do not give homework or advice but I form a therapeutic and committed relationship with you to allow you to express in a very real way, your world and I talk about it with you. Real change happens this way and not through someone else telling you what to do. It happens because the unconscious internal world plays out in the room and unlike in everyday life I capture it and together we try to make sense of it.
Over time in this unique and deep relationship, you begin to understand how and why you may feel brittle and fragile and this self-awareness brings change. We work together to build up your sense of self so that you can feel strong long after therapy has ended and so that problems become easier to manage.
Often clients come hoping that their 'wise' counsellor will give them answers and advice, this of course is understandable but it reinforces power imbalances. In psychodynamic counselling I talk with you about what I feel between us and use that to help you understand relationships outside and your responses to them; we think together about what adaptations you have made and why. We are adept at losing parts of the self as life impacts on us, defences that leave us losing sight of the bigger picture and it is often with a loss or trauma that cracks appear.
We carry ways of being from the past into the present that affect life and relationships now.
Psychodynamic counselling helps us understand and change.
Psychodynamic counselling is not solution orientated.
Working from the inside out, the individual is better able to get to the bottom of the things that get in the way of their happiness then decide what they want and what they want to change.
It can be powerful to uncover the internal resources that will sustain.
I have particular experience understanding problems that arise in families when a child is feeling outside the mainstream among peers and this might be because he or she is being bullied or perhaps there is a learning disability that impacts on the child and causes distress in the family.
Whatever is going on in life it may just be time to think about you.
I am in Hemel Hempstead, (Woodhall Farm).